Whats in a name?...Depends really.

In my second year of teaching middle school I decided that the use of my full last name was not "for me." I was trying out using the hyphenate version of my maiden and married names (this didn't last long) and felt that a five syllable 19 letter last name was a little too much to hear all of the time, especially when students have a habit of mispronouncing either one let alone both.


To avoid a year of correcting students on this matter I went by Ms. B.  Decorated my door with bees, put bees on my syllabi and business cards. (I think you get the picture.) 

One of my coworkers suggested that I was inviting a nickname and an unkind one at that.  This may have been true middle schoolers are notoriously difficult to deal with and they like to talk. about. everyone.

I know that I came up with many names for teachers myself at that age, none of whom had names as enticing to morph in to something cruel as Ms. B.  I suggested to my co-worker that this moniker would not be my fate if I didn't portray it. This isn't to say I did not or would not grade accurately, that I would shy away from discipline but, unlike some of my coworkers, I have a habit of treating my students like people and my classroom like a second home (where they clean up after themselves and can't put their feet on the furniture).

The students were everywhere in the physical space of the classroom. Their summer reading projects went on display. Those came down as they completed new projects and the students decided which of their works to put on the walls.

As the first quarter progressed and back to school night came about, as one parent suggested that Ms. B wasn't formal enough for her liking, and just as my coworker had, that the kids will come up with their own name for me. I explained to her my choice but assured her that students will have names for all of us regardless, but that I wasn't really afraid of what they were coming up with since honestly I didn't treat their kids like children or little adults but like 12 and 13 year olds who occasionally needed to be reigned in and at other times needed more independence.

Before the end of the first quarter, in accordance with my own experiences as a 12 year old, my students came up with their own name for me. I was dubbed Mz. Bizzle.

They also expressed a desire to redecorate my door. The sign on my door expressed how the students felt and completely contradicted what my co-workers and even their parents expected.  (The image here isn't the actual art but its very similar).

My point here isn't that you should invite kids to insult you or that you necessarily adopt the view of middle school students that I have but instead that:

1. You should eliminate the source of something you see as a potential recurring issue and pick your battles. Expecting students to pronounce a 19 letter last name, slightly unreasonable. Expecting students to respect you regardless of what you call yourself, far more reasonable.
2. If you are uncomfortable with certain levels of formality don't force it. I look for my mother when I hear "Mrs. Maiden name," and my mother in law when I hear "Mrs. Married name." When I hear my first name I look for an adult to be saying it.
3. Know your own boundaries and enforce them. Just like with formality if you're not comfortable with treatment you are receiving don't accept it.
4. Accept and give appropriate student affection and respect. 

I cherish the name Mz. Bizzle - I wanted it for my license plate but someone else beat me to it.  I love the name, the signs they made, and the contributions the kids made in my life. To have earned that name meant that I accomplished something beyond the curriculum map.